Donna Chester Counselling

 More Than Enough: A Letter To The Overwhelmed. You go through life being told that you are not doing enough, that you are failing and that you need to put in more effort. If they only knew that you were already putting in 150% effort every minute of everyday just to stay on top of things. You felt completely misunderstood growing up as you would often say the wrong thing without bad intention, and you would get a feeling of being different to everyone else.  You stumble through life being psychologically knocked and bumped every day. You have no idea who you are because you have tried so hard not to be the person others have criticised. You mirror other people in order to feel safe and understood and to shield yourself from more criticism. You feel the energy in a room and are highly attuned to the emotions of others around you. You try to attend to these emotions to help reduce any conflict.  You over extend yourself. You say yes to things when you really want to say no...

A Tribute to the Transgender Community on Transgender Visibility Day  Being an ally to the transgender and non binary community means standing alongside some of the bravest people I know. Those people have chosen to live as their authentic selves despite a world that makes it difficult. They ask for nothing more than the right to be who they are, yet society repeatedly questions their identity, challenges their existence and constantly puts obstacles in their way. Imagine being told that your own experience of yourself isn't real. Or that your truth is up for debate. It is a painful, isolating and frustrating reality that many transgender people face every day. We see this in other areas of life too; people with chronic pain or anxiety disorders often struggle to be believed because others can't see their struggles. But just as pain is real even when it is invisible, transgender and non binary people are real, valid and deserving of respect. The Right To Simply Exist  At the c...

4-5 minute read.     Today, on Epilepsy Awareness Day, I want to share how epilepsy affects not only those who live with it but also the people around them.   Growing up with a parent who had epilepsy, I had no guidance to help me understand this complex condition. It was rarely mentioned in the media, on TV, or in books. There was nothing around me to help make sense of what our family was going through.   Disabilities can have a deep, generational impact—but my hope is that, through awareness and understanding, families can find healing.   Epilepsy is often misunderstood because it is an invisible condition.  Just because someone appears to function well day to day does not mean that they can always fully meet their own needs. Managing epilepsy can be challenging both physically and emotionally.   The Emotional Impact of Epilepsy   Living with epilepsy can feel incredibly isolating. Because the condition is not always visible, people can struggl...

  The Benefits of Email Counselling: A modern Approach to Therapy When I heard about email counselling it instantly grabbed my attention. As an introvert myself, I could see how this could help a lot of people who might struggle with traditional face to face counselling. One of my values is to make counselling as accessible to as many people as possible. Having since started work in this area, I wanted to share with you some of the benefits of email therapy as opposed to traditional face to face.  1.     Convenience and Flexibility Email counselling allows clients to chose their own schedule for their sessions. It eliminates the need to travel to a certain place at a specific time which means they are not needing to disrupt their usual routine. You may be a busy parent, a carer that has many duties to attend to throughout the day, or busy working at your job - perhaps working shift patterns, email counselling enables you to access therapeutic support at a time that s...

Reflecting on Anxiety and phone usage  How strange is it that we as a species, are so intelligent, yet the more we improve things in our world, we move further away from who we are. As human beings, we are animals, yet we are slowly being made into robots. At one time, we could notice what our bodies needed by trusting our instincts. The feelings we noticed would give us signals that we need the toilet, we are hungry, full or tired. We could then make sure we acted accordingly. Nowadays we h ave so many apps for all these things that if we are not on our phones, we may become anxious because we feel we need to be doing something and so we turn to our phones for answers. Being neurodivergent, like myself, can also make this tricky because a lot of these apps are helpful for us. They help us to prioritise things and remember tasks. Whilst I think these are helpful in some ways, I feel they could cause an even bigger issue in the long run because we are needing to rely on our phones m...

  Why am I feeling the way I do?  (a guide to attachment) When we are young, we pick things up from our caregivers. We learn when/if it is safe to ask for something, or if it is safe to show our emotions. What we learn from our caregivers can stay in our bodies for the rest of our lives. We might remain hypervigilant and are always looking out for how others are behaving so that we can adjust our own behaviour to suit. This often shows up such as going our of our way to make sure we don't upset anyone, always saying yes, never speaking up for our own needs - often not even knowing what these needs are.  The stress that we carry in our bodies from being young can feel like; a tight jaw, teeth grinding/clenching, tense shoulders, a tight stomach, shallow breathing, trouble reaching a top breath for air. However, if we start to notice these patterns then we can start to break these habits and begin to create our own pathways that feel safe. Here's an example; We are a child,...